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Why Is It So hard To Love? 

We inherit our love patterns from our parents, from their personalities, and from our childhood, which is why these patterns feel so natural. We don't even know what our patterns are in many cases! Outdated relationship patterns keep us from loving each other in healthy, mature, vibrant and nourishing ways. Read More

Why Do Couples Turn Off?

Couples turn off because they start to feel more emotionally pushed away and shut down to each other. This often happens so gradually that partners tolerate it and they slowly become used to it. Becoming "roomates", "best friends", or "pals" isn't enough to sustain an intimate relationship.  Read More

What If My Partner Won't Come In?

My partner doesn't really want to come to therapy but I do! What can I do if my partner keeps making excuses or putting it off? You don't have to simply wait or give in because then nothing will change! Distance just festers and actually gets worse over time. Read More

What If I Feel More Like a "Roommate"? 

Is it possible to get attraction and desire back? Sometimes couples become stuck and feel turned off or lose interest and attraction! Do you have to push yourself to be intimate? Does your partner guilt or pressure you? When couples meet they usually feel chemistry, attraction, desire and passion!.. Read More

Does Your Life Feel Like a Treadmill? 

Have you become compulsive and you can't get off the treadmill? Do you feel a constant pressure to do something and you stay busy all the time?  Is it hard to "get out of your head"?  Do you tell yourself: "I work and have kids and this is just how life is!.. Read More

Do You Feel Controlled By Your Wife? 

Strong, confident women are attractive but you may be in a passive role! If you are too shut down and passive, and can't seem to meet her halfway you may have some relationship patterns that are unhealthy. Do you tend to just give in and give up, let her have her way?.. Read More

Have You Turned Into His "Mother" and Feel Stuck? 

Do you feel frustrated having to nag, beg, scold, or threaten?  Do you have "heavy talks" but it only changes for a few weeks?  You are both stuck in codependency patterns! The good news is you can grow out of it!.. Read More


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