MY PARTNER WON'T COME TO THERAPY!
My partner doesn't really want to make changes! What can you do if you want to work on issues but your partner keeps making excuses or putting it off? Don't give in because then nothing will change! Distance just festers and actually gets worse over time. Too many couples wait until something tragic happens and sometimes it's too late! You don't have to settle!
Couples Therapy with Just One Partner!
You can do couples therapy with one partner to get the ball rolling! This is a good idea if your partner is stubborn or resistant! By coming in alone at first you will have a good opportunity to give your therapist a wealth of background and history which will make couples growth more effective. In many cases your partner will begin to feel uncomfortable and will want to know what's going on...you simply invite your partner to the next appointment!
How Can I Make Changes By Myself?
Couples often become locked in complicated couples dynamics but all it takes is one person to change the whole dynamic! Even if you have been stuck for years everything will change if you change! Just one motivated, insightful partner can go home and get a voice, stop being codependent, start to expect more mature behavior and be more open! As you make changes and start to approach your partner differently it changes the relationship! You can change your 50% of the responsibility for the emotional walls, the triggers, the lack of desire. One partner can actually do couples therapy! (but in about 98% of the cases he/she will join you in a few weeks). Don't wait until it gets even more stuck and distant! Make a healthy choice and come in by yourself to get the process started!